Do you feel that taking care of your baby is killing the passion in your marriage? Then it's time you pull up your socks and do something about it before your marriage becomes boring, and your spouse becomes just a room-mate. Follow these tips to rekindle the lost love and bring passion back in your marriage.
It's in the Appearance
Earlier in the relationship did you make efforts to look your best? It's time you start doing it again 'coz it would make your spouse take notice of you and also make believe that you are still making the effort to look beautiful and smart, just for them.
Go back to Dating school
Dating is not only for those who are courting or for the newly-weds. It's as effective for new parents as they require that 'us' time. You can ask someone you trust to take care of your child and plan an evening out – dinner and a long drive. "We are lucky that we have our parents or in-laws living with us who can take care of the baby. So, whenever Varun and I go out, we don't have the 'I hope the baby is fine' worry running at the back of our mind," says singer Rajeshwari Sachdev. But what if you don't have help? No worries! You can always plan a dinner at home, snuggle on the couch after the baby has gone to sleep.
Learn the art of Seduction
If there is marriage without sexual intimacy, then it can be in real trouble. Sex is a very important part of your relationship. And if that's missing then your partner may start looking for it outside the relationship. So go that extra mile in the bedroom – wear that sexy lingerie, bring in the whipped cream and chocolate sauce, basically do whatever it takes. "Hormone levels can fluctuate post pregnancy and breastfeeding results in a loss of libido. It's essential for the parents to regenerate and revive their sexual passion. Sex is powerful in creating intimacy which is the central factor in any romantic relationship," says psychologist Rachna Kothari.
"The priority should always be couple first and then the child. It's only when the parents are happy, the child will be happy," says actress Tanaaz Currim. Rajeshwari adds, "Don't crib that it's exhausting and frustrating, just go with the flow. After all, your child is your real labour of love."
Time for some romance
Remember the time when you used to bring flowers for your wife? It's time to do it again, boys. Also, put love notes in each others purses. Serve your wife breakfast in bed, or give each other body massages.
Remember, it's the gesture that counts.
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