Friday, November 26, 2010

Smooth sailing or a roller-coaster ride?


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Here's a quiz that will help you assess the current state of your relationship

Everything isn't always hunky-dory in a relationship. However, too many ups and downs may be a warning signal that it's high time you did some evaluation. Take this quiz to help you judge whether your relationship is as healthy as it should be. Answer each of the statements with a 'yes' or a 'no'. 

My partner :
- Is very supportive of things that I do.
- Encourages me to try new things.
- Likes to listen when I have something on my mind.
- Understands that I have my own life too.
- Is not liked very well by my friends.
Says I'm too involved in different activities. 
- Texts me or calls me all the time.
- Thinks I spend too much time trying to look nice.
- Gets extremely jealous or possessive.
- Accuses me of flirting or cheating.
- Constantly checks up on me or makes me check in.
- Controls what I wear or how I look.
- Tries to control what I do and who I see.
- Tries to keep me from seeing or talking to my family and friends.
Has big mood swings — yells at me one minute, and the next minute is apologetic. 
- Makes me feel nervous.
- Puts me down and criticises me.
Makes me feel like I can't do anything right. 
- Makes me feel like no one else would want me.
- Threatens to hurt me, my friends or family.
- Threatens to hurt him/herself because of me.
- Threatens to destroy my things.
- Grabs, pushes, shoves or chokes to hurt me.
- Breaks things or throws things to intimidate me.
- Yells, screams or humiliates me in front of others.
- Pressures or forces me into having sex.

To rate your score :
Give yourself one point for every 'no' you answer to questions 1 - 4; one point for every 'yes' response to numbers 5 - 8 and five points for every 'yes' to question s 9 - 26.

Now tally your score :
0 points: Not to worry, it's a good thing! From the looks of it, your relationship is on a pretty healthy track. 
1-2 points: If this is your score, you may be noticing a couple of things in your relationship that may be unhealthy. Keep an eye on troubling signs and ensure that you communicate with your partner.
3-4 points: You may be seeing some warning signs of an abusive relationship. Seek help from relevant people.
5 points or more: High alert! You are in an abusive relationship and need to take immediate steps.

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